With my first post on MegInTime 2.0 (and I’m trying to think of something catchy worthy of a Hollywood blockbuster long-awaited sequel) and in case any of my former readers have been able to find the new and (hopefully) improved MegInTime, I thought I’d give a quick run down on life and where I see this blog going.
I looked back on my old blogger.com account and saw that my last post on my old former blog by this same name was in May 2017. Three years. A lot has changed. A lot has also stayed the same.
MeginTime the original was a fun little foray into the world of lifestyle blogging in which I posted a lot of pictures of different outfits and purchases from Old Navy, Target and the Loft. I discussed different workouts I was doing, meals I tried to cook, Pinterest crafts for my young kids, books I was reading and shows I was watching.
So let’s talk about MegInTime 2.
Health, Fitness, Diet and yada yada yada
So this is one area of my life in which I’m rocking it. I turned 48 and honestly, I feel great. Personally, I think I look awesome too. I’ve adopted a low carb/high fat way of eating and do Pilates. I’m actually teaching Pilates a couple times a week. I feel amazing.
But, I’m going to write and blog about that on my other website and my other Instagram account, not here. I offer coaching services (and no, not Beachbody coaching) over there and I’ve decided this blog will be about everything else in my life. I’ll keep a link to that website on the top of this website, but that will be it on MegInTime 2.0.
Fashion and Outfits
If I remember correctly, my outfits, my shopping and my quest to look Pinterest-worthy for my desk job were the center point of the original blog.
That’s not going to happen. Not anymore.
I wear legging. Black leggings. All the time.
I just don’t dress up anymore. That could change. There’s a little voice that tells me I should dress up more. I sometimes think about it. I’ve been listening to this podcast and occasionally think about buying one of her courses.
But honestly, I’ve got a lot on my to-do list and this is just one that is super low on the priority scale. So, if you are one of my former readers and were hoping to see an updated list of ways to tie a scarf or what I bought at Nordstroms, sorry, but it’s not happening.
Do people even wear scarves anymore?
I need to go through all of my old scarves and get rid of some.
Which leads me to…..
Cleaning and Organizing the House
This is one of my goals for this summer. This is one of my BIG goals. I’ve been listening to Katy Joy Wells’ podcast and even signed up for her 14-day challenge. After I declutter, I’m planning on getting my house professionally cleaned for the first time in over a year. Since the pandemic, we haven’t had anyone outside of our family into our house and this is what I asked for for my birthday. I’m so excited.
And then I’m going to keep this house clean with the help of my children, which leads to …..
I have two kids: one boy (age 10) and one girl (age 8). They’re amazing little kids. They’re friends and are constantly keeping each other company which has been so necessary during the pandemic and staying at home. They’re in school now four days out of the week, but we’re limiting contact outside of that and will not be using any outside child care this summer.
They’re also one of the main subjects of my own coaching. I feel like I’m at a precipice of sorts. What I do now could screw them up or screw up our relationship in the future. Am I spending enough time with them? Am I hard enough on them with discipline, routines and rules? Am I too hard? Do I expect too much of myself? Do I not expect enough? Am I a good mom?
They’re messy and don’t clean up after themselves. Boy is not the best student. Girl is starting to get sassy. Both of them cut their own hair recently. I allow technology beyond 30 minutes a day. Okay, way beyond. Hello 2020, who didn’t? I don’t enforce chores. I actually think they don’t know what a chore is. Oh, and as important as my nutrition is, I don’t make them eat their vegetables and let them have processed foods and sugar more than I know they should.
I’m in a group coaching program for parenting and love it, but admit I have trouble following the guidelines and suggestions for it. I want to be a loving, wonderful, supportive mother who is guiding them to be happy, functioning, productive and contributing adults who want to talk and occasionally visit me. It’s my most important role in life. But I’m not completely confident I’m winning in this game.
My role as a mother and how I coach myself in that role will probably be a major topic on this blog.
Anything Else That Comes Up
At this point, I’m predicting my new blog will be about my attempts to clean and organize my home and raise two good humans. But there are other things that may come up.
I’m having a lot of issues about my hair. My hair-stylist of the past decade moved away two years ago and I just haven’t been happy with it since. Coaching myself on it, I realized it’s one reason I haven’t been showing up on social media as much. It’s been holding me back on a lot. It may seem silly and trivial, but it’s actually been a big issue for me to deal with.
My marriage is doing well even with this whole pandemic thing. He’s been working from home since March 2020 and I’m thankful our family has been able to remain safe and economically secure. I’m still 100% completely in love with him and don’t know what I would have done without him during this past year. We spend more time together, just sitting at the dining room table or on our front porch. We hold hands. He says sweet things to me and I can’t imagine having children with a better man. He’s an amazing and loving father.
But I also really am looking forward to him getting the F out of my house and going back to work.
How many times does one need to open and close the sliding glass door? Open and close. Open and close. Open and close. He’s just always here. (He’s probably thinking the same thing about me except he’s thinking, how many times does she need to flush a toilet?—I drink a lot of water, okay).
Last, I feel like my career has tanked over the past couple of years and I constantly wonder what exactly I’m doing with my life. I’m not working really. Well not the traditional office-outside-the-home working. We’re not using outside child care and that’s been one issue preventing me from applying. I also go back and forth on whether I really want to.
I work a few times a week as a Pilates instructor and that’s all. I’m trying to start a business, but that’s been more challenging than expected, especially with everyone in this house all of the time, asking for a snack, making a mess and opening and closing the sliding glass door. So that’s been creating a huge amount of mind drama.
So I may be writing about other things that may come up which I coach myself on. I see this blog being mostly about trying to clean and organize my home and my parenting, but other issues may come up, like my hair, my business and whether to install French doors to the backyard.
So expect less selfies (at least until my hair gets better) and outfit pics. More gritty parenting fails. Or maybe some wins. There will be tales of trying to keep the house clean and trying to teach a kid how to clean a toilet to my satisfaction.
Life coaching and coaching myself has made a huge difference for me and I’m planning on sharing it here–to the extent that I’m going to try to avoid hurting anyone. Coaching can help on some of the big issues such as family disputes, illnesses and big decisions. But it can also help on all of those little issues that come up–the hair, the kids, and that f’ing sliding door.
When we feel a negative emotion over one of those little issues–like annoyance or a flash of anger or resentment–we can sometimes try to resist that emotion. We’ll immediately shame ourselves for resenting an otherwise awesome husband or complain that perfect little family that leaves wrappers and crumbs on my floor in my large suburban house in a first-world country. I should feel gratitude, shouldn’t I?
But if we immediately resist those negative emotions and get out our gratitude journals, those emotions are still there. They’ll eventually bubble to the surface. They may explode. And that’s when you find yourself walking around Target in your slippers at 8:00 at night, crying and buying crap you don’t need. I’m writing hypothetically of course.
So that’s what MeginTime 2021 is going to be all about…at least for now.
I’m new at this WordPress blogging and it may also take some time to figure out the little details like photos, SEO, links, etc. But if there is one thing coaching has taught me is that if you want to start something, you might have to just start and let it be messy at first.
There was always part of me who missed blogging, who missed MeginTime, who missed the online community. So I decided I just needed to start again. I’m starting this blog messy: messy hair, messy house and messy website.